YOUR SOLDIER NEEDS YOUR SUPPORT

         

 Being a soldier's girl is never easy. Being the army spouse is toughest job in military. Long deployments, less contact, absence on important events, spending birthdays alone etc etc. This is what every soldier's girl have to face. But important here is,how to act, react and respond to such situations.
      In beginning of relationship with a soldier, you may find difficulties in accepting the way things are but its human nature that one adjusts in the environment with a passage of time. A soldier's job is very tough, so he needs a companion how may try to understand the nature of his profession, rather than fighting around all time. Your soldier needs your support to break the obstacles and move on, to build a successful career.
    
 Here are few tips you may apply to make things go smooth, healthy and happy:

• TRY TO ACCEPT CHALLENGES: though it is too difficult to accept any thing promptly but in some cases you have to do it and even if you are not willing, you have to show you are happy. For example, for the last two months you had been planning programs to spend time together on a one month leave, but suddenly you get to know that your soldier has got the orders to command a new post in some other city for three more months, then at that time you have to keep your nerves in control and tell the guy that his career is prior, you can implement your plans after three months. This will keep his morale high, and he would surely be able to work in a better way.
• DON'T COMPLAINT ALL THE TIME: Saying that you miss him is fine; but complaining about the sufferings for being alone all the tirme; is not sensible. Complaints may make your soldier feel guilty for not giving you proper time.
• MAKE HIM FEEL SPECIAL: You must realize that your soldier has been under tough duty all the time. So make him feel special,  to make him feel out of the military  world, he lives in.The best way to do this is, by discussing the things of his interests like, sports, cars, latest gadgets etc.
• LISTEN TO HIM: Military guys hardly talk about their routine matters, but if he shares some thing, do listen to him. It doesn't mean that he wants your advice, he would share because he wants someone to listen to him.
• TAKE CARE OF HIS MENTAL RELAXATION: Soldier's job is very tough. It takes a lot of his brain. More over, he may spend days in isolation during his deployment. All you have to do is to plan some good activities to relax his mind. For this the best way is to design an activity book with interesting questions, creative writing topics etc.Yes, It works.
• BE ENCOURAGING: Always motivate your soldier and make him feel that you are proud of him. Use supportive and encouraging words which will be an asset for him to lead and move forward. If he tells any obstacle or failure, try to tell him that he would succeed soon and tell him not to be worried. Statements like "EVERY THING WILL BE ALRIGHT", "DON"T LOSE YOUR HEART.SOON THINGS WILL BE FIXED", "SUCCESS WILL BE YOURS AT LAST" etc will give support to your soldier.
• ITS GOOD TO EXPRESS THAT YOU WORRY: Not all the time you have to show your self a brave girl who absorbs the worries in no time and move on. NO!!! This is not a right attitude.Remember, after all you are a girl with a fragile heart. Time to time you have to make your soldier realize that you stay worried for his health and comfort. Other wise it will give an impression that you don't care any more.

Its beautiful to be in relation with a soldier. You are always loved and cared. Though this relationship demands compromises but once you understand how to handle situations, you will feel your self happy go lucky.